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ImageEleven years ago, Easter Sunday fell on a March 31. I remember that date distinctly, because that was the night I came closer to dying than, even now, I want to admit to myself. The brutal attack I survived that night forever cleaved my life into Before and After. I thought this would be the year that I could finally write about it, but I was wrong.

Words that escape me

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I’m still here, attempting to sift through a profusion of words so I can string some of them together in a way that makes sense.

Watch this space.

A month of haiku: Week 1

La dama presiding over a float in the New Orleans St. Patrick's Day Parade, March 2011.

Spurred by the boundless creativity of my friend Elle Crash, I’ll be writing one haiku a day during April, which is National Poetry Month. Since I love a theme, my haiku will be inspired by places I have lived or visited. Here’s Week 1:

April 1 – Milwaukee
Two rounds with this town
Law of diminished returns
Grabbed me by the throat

April 2 – Portland, Ore.
Dream of the ’90s
Broke in my Docs on Burnside
Learned to drink coffee

April 3 – New Orleans
These streets feel ancient
Sighs and screams crushed in layers
Beneath dancing feet

April 4 – Dayton, Ohio
Chasing your genius
Dragon roars louder than life
We’ll always need more

April 5 – Wausau, Wis.
Lived in the newsroom
Always loved this town best in
The rearview mirror

April 6 – Marshfield, Wis.
Literal cowtown
Gravel roads led straight to Mars
Shed so much blood here

April 7 – Detroit
Summer of no sleep
And no bed, just my four wheels
Up and down Woodward

Outlaw love song

XVI of Twenty-One Love Poems
by Adrienne Rich (May 16, 1929 – March 27, 2012)

Across a city from you, I’m with you,
just as an August night
moony, inlet-warm, seabathed, I watched you sleep,
the scrubbed, sheenless wood of the dressing-table
cluttered with our brushes, books, vials in the moonlight—
or a salt-mist orchard, lying at your side
watching red sunset through the screendoor of the cabin,
G minor Mozart on the tape-recorder,
falling asleep to the music of the sea.
This island of Manhattan is wide enough
for both of us, and narrow:
I can hear your breath tonight, I know how your face
lies upturned, the halflight tracing
your generous, delicate mouth
where grief and laughter sleep together.

Not dead yet

Ticket to ride.

What I’ve been doing for the past five months or so, while I’ve been neglecting this blog:

∆ Posting random thoughts, images and autobiographical jukebox selections on my Tumblr blog, Strange Loop.

∆ Discovering more reasons to love New Orleans during my third visit to the city in less than a year (and yes, I’m already making plans to go back).

I love rambling through the French Quarter early in the morning, when the streets are still quiet and have not yet been scrubbed clean of the previous night's debauchery.

∆ Becoming better acquainted with Florida during road trips to Panama City, Jacksonville and Gainesville.

∆ Putting in some volunteer hours at Full Earth Farm, a small farm in Quincy, Fla. This lifelong city girl had no idea that feeding compost heaps, yanking out weeds and playing a (very small) part in building a new greenhouse could be so much fun.

Behold the power of Full Earth Farm's fully armed and operational greenhouse.

∆ Thinking, researching and writing about local food and the people who grow, sell, cook and consume it. (More information about that project coming soon).

∆ Reading stacks of zines and other independently published works. Jacksonville and Gainesville each have awesome zine libraries, and I’ve visited both of them in the last few months.

The Civic Media Center in Gainesville has a swoonworthy zine collection.

∆ Listening to Jennifer Egan read the first chapter of her Pulitzer Prize-winning novel, “A Visit From the Goon Squad” — is there anything more thrilling than hearing a writer you love read her own words? — and talk about her writing process.

∆ Watching “The Interrupters” and marveling at the consistent genius of Alex Kotlowitz, who produced the movie with filmmaker Steve James. This heartrending documentary about the brave souls who work to stop street violence in Chicago is the most thought-provoking film I’ve seen in a long, long time.

∆ Spinning a lot of Leonard Cohen — his own recently released album, “Old Ideas,” and Greg Dulli’s pitch-perfect cover of “Paper Thin Hotel.” Also on heavy rotation around here: New records by Guided by Voices, Robert Pollard, Lucero, Ryan Adams, the Heartless Bastards, the Cloud Nothings, Ani DiFranco and Bruce Springsteen.


∆ Filling our little townhouse with a diverse group of wonderful Tallahasseeans to celebrate the Professor’s birthday. Wow, we’ve met a lot of great people in the 18 months that we’ve lived in Florida.

One of the Professor's awesome birthday gifts from our Floridian friends.

∆ Driving from Tallahassee to Chicago for the Association of Writers and Writing Programs Conference and the Chicago Zine Fest, with an all-too-brief stop in Cincinnati and a quick dash to Milwaukee. (You can find a handful of photos from the trip on Strange Loop under the tag “Leap Year Road Trip”). During the 17-day, 2,100-mile journey, I racked up more great outings, memorable meals and inspiring conversations with my Midwestern friends than I can tally.

Chicago's unofficial flag.

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Weekend road trip: Athens, Ga.

Real-deal Southern pulled pork and ribs, with a honey-sweet side of hospitality, from a joint called Old Clinton Bar-B-Q outside of Macon, Ga. Morning Ride blend at Jittery Joe’s. Digging for printed treasure in the haphazard stacks of zines, comics and books at Bizarro Wuxtry. Mac ‘n’ cheese, collard greens and cornbread at The Grit, the best vegetarian diner anywhere. First visit, believe it or not, to the 40 Watt Club, which immediately leaped high onto the list of my favorite rock clubs on the planet. Snagging a prime drummer-watching spot for the most outstanding show of the year: Wild Flag’s exuberant performance, capped by a gleeful cover of Television’s “See No Evil.” Homemade biscuit breakfast sandwich at Ike & Jane, which I always mistakenly call Ike & Tina, even though that would be a truly terrible name for a bakery … or anything else, really. One last spin around Cleveland Avenue, keeping an eye out for its most infamous resident, before heading to the highway. Pit stop in Macon for a chili-spiked meal and an equally heated fútbol match at a hole-in-the-wall taqueria. Pulling into the driveway sometime before midnight (for once), with a list already in mind of all the stuff I want to do the next time we visit Athens.

Maps and legends

One of the R.E.M. posters on the wall at Weaver D's Delicious Fine Foods in Athens, Ga. The same poster hung in my bedroom when I was in high school.

I wrote this piece in January 2009, right after my first visit to Athens, Ga., a place that has long been marked with a bright star on my personal map of the world. Athens, of course, is the birthplace of one of the bands that first lured me left of the dial: R.E.M. Today, the group – one of just a handful of rock bands that truly deserve to be called seminal – ended its 31-year run.

I would like to note that, on my second trip to Athens, later in 2009, I finally got a chance to see Michael Stipe in person, when he made a quick stop at the local lunch spot where my friends and I were eating cold sesame noodles. To say I was thrilled is an immense understatement.

Each year, scores of people make pilgrimages to Graceland, the opulent Memphis estate owned by the late Elvis Presley. To those devoted fans, Elvis’ house is the true home of rock ’n’ roll.

Although I consider “That’s Alright Mama” to be one of the finest songs ever recorded, I’ve never felt the pull of Graceland. I prefer to remember Presley in his pre-mansion days, when he was all hunger and dangerous edges.

Like the Graceland faithful, however, I do tend to make my travel plans with my favorite musicians in mind. There’s not a monument or museum in the world that I find as enticing as the opportunity to peruse the same record store or hang out in the same club preferred by my idols. In fact, if I could conjure the ideal job for myself, I’d want to be a rock ’n’ roll tour guide.

My yen to walk the same ground as my musical heroes — most of whom do not possess Elvis’ household-name status — has sent me scrambling to unlikely tourist spots all over the country.

I’ve scanned miles of Minneapolis skyline searching for the scummy water tower that Paul Westerberg exalts in the Replacements song “Can’t Hardly Wait.” I’ve sped along Needmore Road in Dayton, Ohio, in homage of Robert Pollard’s shambling genius. I’ve even gotten to see the back side of Cleveland through the eyes of Cobra Verde’s John Petkovic on a tour led by the inimitable frontman himself.

I kicked off my 2009 expeditions with a jaunt to a place I’ve always wanted to visit, the city that spawned one of the bands that first ushered me into the cult of rock ’n’ roll: Athens, Ga. Most people know this Southern town as the site of the University of Georgia, but to me it’s the stomping grounds of R.E.M.

Until this trip, I’d never been to Georgia. I already knew exactly what Athens must look like, however, thanks to the murky cover of R.E.M.’s first album, “Murmur,” and the band’s sound redolent of the enigmatic landscape.

Even in the cold days of January, Athens gratified me by offering up the contrast of jangly sunlight and lush decay I’d envisioned so many times while listening to R.E.M. records.

My friends Amber and Marc, a fellow R.E.M. devotee, moved to Athens just a few months before my visit. But they’d already cased all the must-see spots on the map of the city’s musical heritage. (Athens also gave birth to the B-52s and one of the all-time-best new wave groups, Pylon).

We took a peek at the legendary 40 Watt Club, ground zero for the Athens music scene. We devoured a New Year’s Eve feast at Grit, a vegetarian joint favored by R.E.M.’s singer, Michael Stipe.  And I’m not ashamed to admit that we rolled past Stipe’s home, a modest wooden structure distinguished only by the thicket of bamboo growing across the front lawn, not once but twice.

The sightseeing trip I enjoyed the most, though, was the afternoon we drove over to Weaver D’s Delicious Fine Foods. The restaurant was closed, but I took a few snapshots of the sign, which features the slogan R.E.M. borrowed for the title of one of its best albums, “Automatic for the People.” Peering into the windows, I squealed like, well, a teenager when I spotted the same R.E.M. poster that hung on my wall when I was in high school.

The site of Weaver D’s once boasted another choice morsel of R.E.M. lore, a big metal star that hung on the building and was photographed for the cover of “Automatic for the People.” Long before I got to Athens, however, someone stole the star.

Now that’s taking fandom a bit too far. I can understand the desire to own such a cool objet d’art. In stealing the star, though, that unknown thief swiped a chunk of rock ’n’ roll history. It’s those everyday artifacts, which inspired the musicians I admire the most, that I’m willing to travel any distance to see for myself.

#1 must have

Back in January, I declared 2011 to be my Year of No.

No to other people’s bullshit agendas. No to the unrealistic expectations of others, and especially to the unrealistic expectations I have for myself. No to all the absurd standards and norms to which our fucked-up society insists that women conform. No to anyone who insists on telling me what to do, how to think, or what to feel.

No to anything I simply don’t want.

I have the right to say no. This is the year I decided, at long last, to claim that right. With every single no I’ve said this year, I’ve felt my life expand. Each no creates a little more space and time and energy for the people and projects and events that make me want to say yes.

I will admit that sometimes my resolve wavers. I am, after all, fighting against a lifelong tendency to say yes without even considering the consequences to myself. Quite a few of the people in my life had come to rely upon my unhesitant, unthinking, please-let-me-please-you yes.

My no, which feels so solid and strong before it exits my mouth, sometimes ends up looking so tiny to me, just two little lowercase letters crowded out by the thunderous all-caps demands of others.

Lately I’ve been having a particularly tough time saying — and sticking to — an important no. Thankfully, Lesley Kinzel, one of my feminist heroes, just handed me the fuel I need. With her trademark take-no-shit eloquence, Kinzel has nailed down “The awesome power of no.”:

“You can tell them no, and refuse to say more on the subject. No is always an option. It’s a small word, a difficult word, a word that speaks volumes in a single syllable, and one that gets easier to say the more you do it. It’s part of your arsenal, whether you realize it or not, and it’s a powerful weapon.

You can say no.

You don’t have to explain it.

You don’t have to apologize for it.

You can just

say

no.”

My no is a vital tool for creating the life I want to live. This year and every year that follows, I will continue to wield it. Without regrets.

Our lady of the highways

Our Lady of the Highways

Every word in the world

This charming bit of graffiti, spotted on Frenchmen Street in New Orleans, always makes me laugh loudly enough to drown out Radio KFKD (at least for a while).

I’m working on a journalism piece right now which feels so massive and unwieldy that I’ve toppled into a major crisis of confidence. I’ve put weeks of immersion reporting and interviews into this project — with lots more to come before I nail down a final draft — but the actual writing just ekes out in dribs and drabs. And those dribs and drabs, for the most part, are not particularly compelling.

Writing this piece — or rather, attempting to write this piece — has consumed so much real estate in my brain that there’s little space for anything else. I’ve tried everything, from setting the piece down for a while to changing writing venues to just forcing myself to keep my fingers moving on the keys, no matter what pours out. For me, that particular technique usually produces a whole lot of nonsense that devolves into something that looks like this: @@#$%!!$$%13!!#.

To meet interim deadlines, I’ve been working on drafts of this piece as I conduct the reporting, rather than waiting to begin writing once I have all the facts and quotes and anecdotes at hand. So maybe that’s the problem — it’s not coming together yet because I don’t have all the information I need.

I know I’m also struggling because this piece requires me to work my first-hand experiences into the story. I just haven’t found a way to pull it off yet that feels natural and cohesive. Even after all these years of deliberately elbowing aside the traditional tropes of journalism, that “I” still carries a lot of power to trip me up.

And then there’s the length of the piece. My final draft needs to be 10,000 words. In journalism terms, that’s about 333 column inches. (Notice how the number is half of 666?) I haven’t felt this intimidated since I asked the features editor at my first newspaper internship how long my first assignment from him should be, and he replied, “Oh, anywhere from 20 to 80 inches will be fine.” (Yes, those were the last halcyon days before the newsholes of our nation shriveled to nearly nothing).

All these nuts-and-bolts issues are contributing to my inability to put sensical sentences on the page, no doubt. This is the heart of the matter, though: I’m waiting for that one image, soundbite or experience that pulls all the threads together. I’ve never been very good at writing from outlines, plotting out a piece before I begin to write, or pulling off any of the other tricks espoused by more well-organized writers. I prefer to feel my way through a story as I report and write, chasing one guiding idea until my own curiosity is satisfied.

So, for the final draft of my project, which is due a lot sooner than I want to admit, I’m facing down the last few laps of the race I always run when I write. Which will arrive first: The inspiration or the deadline?